Reasons, Reasons, Reasons

If you’re following along, I was with my cutie grandson, Jude, for part of last week, what an adorable little chunk of goodness he is--crawling, standing up, waving, clapping, and I’m pretty sure he said, “Nana!”--so delightful to watch him blossom.

And this week, back to reality…
Maybe some of you know that I have a morning routine that includes a nice long walk in the big city park near our apartment and several trips up and down the sledding hill for bonus points. I either walk or rollerblade just about every morning--I love it and it’s really really good for me, in more ways than one.
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Last week, though, I was in full grandma-mode and even though I was not lacking for action (racing Jude to the dog water dish, saving the floor lamp from crashing into the fireplace, and strollering him to the playground) I was not going on my “usual” morning walks.

So, on Monday morning I woke up, put my walking gear on and then sat down on the sofa--remember, the beautiful soft, cozy/comfy one? “Hmmmmm”, I thought, “I’ll check my email, maybe I won’t walk this morning, maybe I’ll just sit--after all, I was quite busy last week…”

A few moments later, I had the second wave of thoughts which came from a deeper, truer place…”Remember how you feel when you walk or skate consistently? Remember how you feel when you don’t? Remember how inspired and connected you feel when you’re out in nature? What do you REALLY want?”

And then I set out for the walk. It would’ve been SO EASY to just stay home and listen to that first (really smart-sounding) voice in my head! And as I walked down the path, I thought, this is EXACTLY what happens with some of my clients.

They have REASONS for not letting go, for keeping things, for staying stuck.

But the reasons come from the BRAIN. And the brain is very useful to us! It calculates our budgets, gets us from point A to point B, keeps track of time and is sensible and protective. It wants to keep us safe, and from rocking the boat or getting into trouble.

But, does that mean that all the information we receive from the brain is the last and final word?

After having worked with clients for many years and continuing to experience my own personal growth, I can say that typically we have a broader sense of what is right and true for ourselves and our lives. And sometimes it takes some time to drop down into that bigger, heart-centered place of knowing.

When I ask clients what they dream of for their lives, they often answer with something like this:

• I wish I had more time to exercise, eat right, practice yoga and meditate, because then I would FEEL BETTER
• I wish I could_______(move to a new house/get my degree/meet a sweet person to share my life with/have a baby).
• I would LOVE to dump this job and get a better one at XYZ company.
• I want to be my own boss--start my own business.
• I wish I had more TIME to knit, draw, sew, paint, create.
• I wish I had more TIME to hang out with my sweetie and kids.
• I wish I had more TIME and MONEY to travel.
• I wish I made MORE MONEY--things would be easier

You get the idea…the requests are for freedom, expansion, abundance, connection…
BIG, GORGEOUS, DELICIOUSLY WONDERFUL LIVES.

Then, once we dig in and start the actual editing and letting go process…

Sometimes clients dish up REASONS (along with resistance) like this:

• I paid good money for that!
• There’s still some life in this!
• It was gift, I can’t get rid of it!
• I worked hard to buy that!
• I MIGHT need it someday!
• I SHOULD keep that because my kids could use it when they go off to college/get their own place/move to a bigger house!
• I HAVE TO keep it because it belonged to my parents/grandparents!

And yes, some things will be kept--the things you NEED and the things you LOVE. The things that light up your heart and make you smile.

If you let the REASONS win, your traction will be toast and your forward progress will stall.
I guarantee it.

When you get to work on decluttering and organizing your space...watch for your sneaky brain to attempt to stop or slow your forward momentum.

Your home is a POWERFUL TOOL for transformation--a beautiful way to take extremely good care of yourself and those you love.

Contact me if you are in need of some support. I am booking clients into September and would LOVE the opportunity to help you get started with your transformation--because what if it was all just GONE in a month or two? What if you had your life back? Wouldn’t you love that?

Lots of Love,
XOXO

​Jane

SUCCESS STORY:
“Now, I keep up with the mail; the multiple bags and boxes of it are gone and I’m FREE! It was like a cancer growing right in my house. I will never let that happen again--I so appreciate Jane’s guidance and kindness in consistently showing up to assist me in releasing all of that chaos.
PS: I got a raise!”
~Anonymous, Madison, WI

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