When it comes to letting go, sometimes it’s not easy and by that I mean, sometimes people have a DEATH GRIP on stuff they have held onto for decades! And, if you’ve been following for awhile, you know a couple of blogs ago we talked about how our brains and emotions can really interfere with what we deeply want and know to be true.
Clients sometimes resist letting go by expressing how hard it is to just “throw things away” when items are of high quality or have some life left in them. This often causes stress! And, it’s a normal part of letting go.
It can be useful to shift or reframe those thoughts
What if the person who finds my cast-off item at the donation center LOVED it? What if it was JUST THE THING they had always been looking for? What if, not only did they absolutely LOVE finding this treasure, but it actually enhanced their life in some wonderful way?
Use a little imagination
Sometimes when clients find it hard to let go, I suggest they perhaps imagine a woman living in poverty finding a gorgeous designer suit that takes her confidently to a job interview. Or a teenage girl who has nothing to wear to a school prom finding their cast-off party dress and deeming it “PERFECT!” (Finding the perfect prom dress can take a girl from sad to sassy in no time flat!) What if the items that no longer make your heart sing could lift someone else’s energy beyond what you could ever imagine? What a gift that would be!
Give with LOVE
Donate your items with great love and intention and expect that the person who finds your “treasure” will be enchanted beyond measure. It is not necessary to warehouse every item that you have ever acquired, bless and release it to the next owner.
If you need even more inspiration on the subject, I recently read and would highly recommend:
Marie Kondo, the author, has her own very strict system of decluttering and organizing, taking on the whole house in a particular order for maximum results. I was fascinated by her approach and read the book in practically one sitting. She addresses this same issue of letting go and says to send off your discarded items with these words:
“Thank you for giving me joy when I bought you. Thank you for teaching me what doesn’t suit me.”
I like the idea of sending your unwanted stuff out into the world with a proper appreciative goodbye. There’s something very lovely about that.
I think you would enjoy this book; a fascinating and quirky perspective on one of my favorite subjects:)
Please call me if you need support to let things go. I would love to help you lighten your load and open up space to create a life you love.