And, if all of the marketers on the planet are doing their jobs, you are out SHOPPING!
With shopping comes giving and with giving sometimes comes…
“ARGHHHHHH! What do I do with the gift I really don’t want to keep?”
We hear this question from just about every client we work with! Even though a well-intentioned gift does NOT meet the criteria for the “KEEP” pile, the narrative goes something like this…
“It was a gift from Great Aunt Betsy!” “I can’t get rid of it, even though I hate it, my mom gave it to me!” (You get the idea…)
Often, clients have A LOT of guilt about letting go of items that once were gifts. And it’s not just at the holidays! It’s a whole category of “stuff” that stays in your space for the wrong reasons!
I am ALL for keeping gifts that make you exquisitely happy, and cause joy to flow from your pores. But any other gift? If you’re keeping it because of guilt? It’s got to go! Really!!!
Let’s break it down...
- The FIRST GIFT is the choosing. If you are inspired at the time of buying a gift for someone else then the first gift has been given. If it lights you up to purchase a gift, then by all means, DO IT!
- The SECOND GIFT is the giving. The moment you send or deliver the gift, the second gift has been given. You’re really sending your love with the extra dollop of something tangible to represent it. YAY!
- The THIRD GIFT is the receiving. “My (relative, friend, S.O., husband) thought so much of me that s/he gave me a gift! How lovely, I can feel the love, the intention, the spirit of the gift!” RECEIVING the love and intention is the third gift.
- THEN...when the gift is in your hands, IT IS YOURS!
It is completely up to you to decide what to do with it.
IF (and only if) you SPARKLE when you hold whatever has been given to you...then it’s a keeper.
IF it falls into the other category, filled with reasons, rationalizations, and guilt, then you must send it out into the world WITH LOTS OF LOVE for someone else to adore.
Remember! The three gifts (choosing, giving and receiving) have already transpired!!!!!
And I know this is not easy--we’ve been programmed to be “nice” and “smile” and stuff it in the closet. But then the closet gets full and starts trailing out into our living areas, or down the stairs and into the garage...then it’s time to take steps to claim your home as your very own space to rejuvenate, rest and nourish yourself.
You are not a gift warehouse; you do not have to save every gift that has been bestowed upon you!
And, I know, it’s not always easy--breathe, choose gifts to give with a big dose of love and intention, give freely with no strings attached and feel easier about letting go of things that don’t delight you while keeping your own personal energy intact.
Send a message if we can help support you to enjoy more space, more energy, or more beauty this holiday season!
Lots of Love and Happy Full Moon!
This organizing session was just what I needed to lift the burdens of past. I feel like I got a part of my life back and accomplished something huge for myself today! I see clearer and feel empowered over my life again. Thank you Jane and Kelly!
R.J., Madison, WI